Kalena: Testimony
-By Kalena Come as you are, attitude and all, but be ready for you to change, not them. I’m embarrassed to admit publicly that I had been struggling for years with looking down on my husband—viewing him critically, cynically, even frequently taking jabs at him. It felt awful. I was angry all the time, and I couldn’t seem to stop. Nothing I was doing was working, and I was exhausting both of us. Later, my husband confessed that he felt like I didn’t respect him—and honestly, that had become true. I had grown dissatisfied and justified in my impossible expectations, not just for myself but for others too. Strangers, coworkers, easy peezy, I felt like I had this Christ thing in the bag. But the people in my own home? No agape love in sight. It was more like, “you hurt me, I hurt you”—maybe not so dramatic, but internally there was a constant storm of anger and criticism. I was all in my feelings all the time, and in my victimhood. I even expected my teenage daughter to behave like an adul...